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A journey through an important piece of our "newthink."


 

Alert: This is one of 3,000 EFT Tapping articles that were written by users like you but before 2010. As such they are outdated and some of the links don't work. Nonetheless, they provide an excellent Peek at the Possibilities and show you the wide reach of even our older methods. See TRAINING for our free and near-free advanced methods.

 

Hi Everyone,

We are privileged to hear from Dr. Jane Holmes-Roughton. As you will see, Jane is a well studied therapist with insights that set her apart in this field. She is a delight to know and possesses a very engaging south'n drawl that reflects her Geohhhgia roots. (Geohhhgia is south'n for Georgia).

In her message below, Jane takes us on a journey through an important piece of the "newthink" that goes hand in hand with our dramatic new healing procedures. In this case, she points to how buried, sensitive issues often bubble up to the top rather then remain in the recesses.

Hugs, Gary

 

Dear Fellow EFT-ers,

Today I'd like to comment not on a "one-minute wonder" but on something that has made an impression on me as it occurs over and over in my practice.

Before I began learning the tapping therapies in 1996, I had practiced traditional "talk therapy" and had been in traditional therapy myself. One of the things I had noticed was that it was awfully easy for a client--myself included--to avoid an important issue when the issue was uncomfortable to confront and talk about. And traditionally I had been taught that usually such an issue is a very sensitive one and the therapist should take her lead from the client, not bringing up the issue until the client brought it up, lest it be too much for the client to handle emotionally.

One of the beauties of the tapping therapies to me is that as we clear away the presenting issues, the buried, sensitive issues "bubble up" to the surface, ready, usually, to be worked on. Sometimes the client has a visual image of some forgotten previous experience, sometimes it's just something like, "I don't know where this is coming from, but all of a sudden I'm feeling like . . . ." And I have not encountered a case of these issues being too much for the client to confront and work on.

I don't know whether it feels so safe to the client to be using the energy therapy approach that they can confront what would have seemed too much using the traditional approach, or whether the issues were actually blocked until the presenting issues were cleared away. What I do know is that it opens up the possibility of successfully treating issues that otherwise would perhaps never surface, or surface only after months or years of traditional treatment.

This process often happens spontaneously, with an astonished client reporting with a great sense of wonder, "I just remembered something I haven't thought about in years and I had never connected the experience with (for example) the claustrophobia that I've been having trouble with," or "This reminds me of an awful experience I had when I was in high school, and I had completely forgotten it until now." But in order to encourage the client's paying attention to the surfacing of memories I will often ask, after the SUDS <0-10 intensity> level is at a zero, "What comes up for you now?" For some clients there is simply a feeling of peace and calm, but for many there is this new focus bubbling up. And most seem to welcome the chance to discuss it.

On some occasions I have intuited that the current problem is masking an underlying problem, and in this case I may ask directly about it. For example, when a client has been referred for a previously intractable problem, such as feeling that in spite of her deep desire to be in a relationship with a man, she simply can't seem to attract anyone, after some progress, but then getting stuck, I might say something like, "You know, I wonder if at some time in your life you might have had unwelcome sexual attentions from a male." And guess what? The missing connection falls into place. (This of course requires rapport with the client and sensitivity in not only what is asked but in the tone of voice and body language used in asking.)

So I think the speed with which we obtain results can be due not only to the speed with which a round of tapping may dissolve the disturbing emotions, but can also be due to the increase in the accessibility of previously forgotten or avoided experiences that are very important to the overall disturbance. And I believe we do well to welcome and encourage giving attention to these surfacing thoughts.

Warmly,

Jane Holmes-Roughton, Ph.D., L.P.C.

 

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