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Alert : This is one of 3,000 EFT Tapping articles that were written by users like you but before 2010. As such they are outdated and some of the links don't work. Nonetheless, they provide an excellent Peek at the Possibilities and show you the wide reach of even our older methods. See TRAINING for our free and near-free advanced methods. Rebecca Marina walks us through a delightful process for "picking ourselves up" when we are tailspinning into one of those funky periods where we are feeling like a loser. There are many good uses of language here. By Rebecca Marina Have you ever had a time in your life where you just felt like a great big loser? Like you just couldn't do anything right? It's usually at this kind of circumstance that the "inner critic" jumps in and starts criticizing like crazy! Well, I recently felt like that and of course there is a big lesson in it and I wanted to share it with you. We are like a big family and I often share the lessons I am going through with you because I am so very human and because you can get the benefit of the lesson too. Have you ever noticed that when one bad thing happens it seems like right away something else bad happens and pretty soon your chin is dragging on the ground and you feel like the weight of the world is on your shoulders? So, since this happened to me and since I know from all my work with energy that if you get into that downward spiral, you better do SOMETHING QUICK or you will be in really big energetic trouble. So, when I had my little discouraging day, I knew I needed to get my energy shifted and quick. I went into my office and started journaling about the whole rotten day I had experienced. I find just the act of writing it down helps to get it moving out of the system. Then, I turned to good ole EFT to release my negative vibrations and shift them into the upward direction. Here are some of the setups I used. Very soon thereafter, I was feeling downright BUBBLY! Set ups for General Discouragement (I find it helpful to exaggerate the negative before bringing in the positive) "Even though I feel like a great big LOSER, I love and accept myself". "Even though I feel lower than a worm" "Even though my vibrations are low right now" "Even though I got discouraged" "Even though I feel I bit off more than I could chew" "Even though I feel all alone" OK_ now it is time to bring in some of the positive (Dr P Carrington choices method) "Even though I am feeling discouraged, I ask and allow my reticular formation to find and bring to my awareness, more and more things that bring me joy" (The reticular formation is that part of the brain that acts like a radar and finds things that are important to you.) This is on Gary's video. "I ask and allow the energy of happiness to come forth now" "I am willing and open to receive great things from the Universe." "Even though my vibrations have been a little down, I ask and allow them to be raised higher and higher" "I ask and allow the energy of happiness to flood my being" "I ask and allow the energy of encouragement to lift me up" "I ask and allow pure joy to flow though my being now." "I willingly forgive anyone who had anything to do with me feeling down." I always try to find things to focus on that make me happy. It is easy for me to get happy while listening to some great MOTOWN oldies. try it! Now here are some EFT setups for when we feel like a failure with Money Issues. I think this is one area where all of us had had trouble a time or two. "Even though I have trouble with money sometime, I choose to handle money more wisely and am open to every assistance in this department." "Even though I have been beating myself up, I forgive myself for everything and let myself off the hook" "Even though I feel like I can't manage my money " "Even though I tried to be a big shot and failed" "Even though I feel like an idiot who can't handle money " "Even though I feel like it is no use even trying" "Even though I feel so overwhelmed by my money troubles" Now, let's bring in the positive.... Even though I have made a big mess of my finances, I release the need to beat myself up; I embrace the energy of a creative solution. I embrace the opportunity for un-expected and exciting solutionsto come to me. I embrace the the flow of money and resources to me now, I release the need to have to figure it out BEFORE it can come to me. I am open to receive. I release any resistance to receiving all the good God has for me. Here are some setups when you feel like a failure in the LOVE department. Even though I feel unworthy to be loved, I love and accept myself. Even though I keep making the same old mistakes in love, I love and forgive myself. Even though I really lost my self respect, I deeply and completely accept myself Even if I never find true love, I deeply and completely love myself anyway. Even though it hurts so badly, I look for the lesson in this relationship Even though I may never get over this, I choose to do the best I can. Even though I may never trust anyone again, I choose to release guilt and blame. I choose to learn from this and move forward, I choose to turn over a fresh new leaf. I choose to give myself the love I can't seem to find outside myself. I choose to honor my wonderful self in all ways. I choose to forgive myself and everyone else, I am sooooo wonderful and have so much love to share; I am trusting in Divine timing. All is well. So, Gary, after using these setups, I was ready to get back out there and take on the world with passion and enthusiasm 'Till next time, Rebecca Marina Reminder : For upgraded methods, please see our free and near-free TRAINING options. Also, if you have not already done so, be sure to sign up for our FREE SUPPORT (This is the Heartbeat of the Palace of Possibilities and provides live Webinars, Q&A, ideas, creativity and more). Use the icons below to share this article on Social Media. Cheers, Gary

Alert : This is one of 3,000 EFT Tapping articles that were written by users like you but before 2010. As such they are outdated and some of the links don't work. Nonetheless, they provide an excellent Peek at the Possibilities and show you the wide reach of even our older methods. See TRAINING for our free and near-free advanced methods. Hi Everyone, Silvia Hartmann from the UK borrows some useful concepts from IC (Inner Child) work and blends them with EFT. The result is a highly useful protocol for not only getting at foundational issues but also for restructuring an entire childhood. Properly done, this idea holds the potential for transforming an unhappy childhood into a more pleasant one (this includes your own childhood). For many, this is the key to completely shifting the quality of their lives. It will take some mastery to pull this off, but the prize is well worth the pursuit. Hugs, Gary From Silvia Hartmann Regardless of what your involvement may be in personal development, healing, learning etc., I would strongly encourage you to read this article and read it to the end, and most importantly, not to pre-judge the contents for it's terminology or in terms of modality. This is actually a Sidereus Energy Healing pattern which I have translated across into the EFT modality to make it easy to use, easy to understand, and easy to do with self or with clients. It is globally useful, stable and ecological and I would offer it to you with the hope that you will not only read it, but use it. EFT & INNER CHILD WORK About a week ago, a young man by the name of Paul killed himself with a heroin overdose. He was 24 years old, very intelligent, very talented. Following his death, someone said, "I feel so guilty about this. I knew him for five years and I feel responsible. I could have done more to help him." I said, "Get in line. Have you seen Murder On The Orient Express? I was there too, and so were at least a dozen other people. But before he ever got there, what about all the other people involved during the time of his life? His mother who left him, the various foster homes, the children's homes, all the teachers and social workers involved who "processed" him in that time, the drug dealers, his friends, his relatives - well, as I said, get in line. It's a very, very long line, and at the end of the day, by the time we knew him the damage had been done. By the time he was six years old, it was near enough all over." This set me to thinking about the fact that a single sentence placed to a young child can do and undo more than 30 years spend in therapy for an adult. And about the fact that the parts of us that remember what it was like to "be that child" live still in quantum space, and, it being a *quantum space* that we can make changes now that will re-write history then. THE NOVEMBER MAN Milton Erickson, the famous hypnotherapist, once had a very special client. This was a man who had been kept by his lunatic religious fanatic parents in a dark cellar his entire life and was only found upon their death. He had no understanding of the world and no social skills of any kind. Over a period of time, Milton Erickson would age regress him and appear to him as the November Man, a person who would take him out of the cellar and have him experience a playground, a family dinner, a walk to the shops, a holiday by the sea, so that the man would have "childhood memories" that would become templates to base his current behaviour on. There is much literature on "Inner Child" work, and for all of you who dismiss this idea as some kind of lame new age fascination, please read on. It is my supposition that this is the most important type of personal development and HEALING work you could ever undertake - if you have the courage. INNER CHILD WORK & EFT I am going to suggest some approaches to begin your own IC Healing explorations, using Gary Craig's Emotional Freedom Techniques. If you do not know how to use EFT, you can find a full protocol in Gary's free downloadable EFT Manual and I would suggest you try this out on some other emotional issues first before returning to this article. PRE-WORK In many cases, before we can even begin to start, some pre-work needs to be done. It is the sad truth that many deep underlying beliefs we now have as adults about how children should be treated have been formed by the way WE were treated. Oh, indeed, we make decisions to "do much better than that" and many of us do when we are dealing with *other* children or our own; however, how we deal with *ourselves* remains often very much just like our caretakers did. So, we might begin with asking some very basic questions about your feelings regarding "children" in total. How do you feel about children? Do you like them? Do you find them annoying, irritating, attention seeking, limiting to your own endeavours? Do you like *some kinds of children* better than others? If so, why? What *kind* of children do you find particularly annoying? What age, type, gender, race, upbringing, looks? How do you feel about an adult's responsibility for the upbringing of children? Do you have any particularly strong views about what should or should not be done with, to or by children? The questions above will begin to make you aware of some emotions and memories regarding children in general, including the recoil decision "not to go there at all" or "not being interested in children", for example. If you are involved in personal development, either with clients or for your own healing and growth, and most likely, both, then "children" and their issues should really be of prime concern to you - naturally. I don't have to tell you that most every long lasting problem or limitation now is rooted in some way in childhood experiences or the lack thereof, you already know this on every level. So *should there be a resistance* to even looking into these kinds of issues, I would seriously ask you to have a tap on this very resistance - it could well contain a breakthrough key to your current problems. Now, let's move on to working with your own past selves, the children that you once were. PROXY TAPPING PAST SELVES The mechanism of proxy tapping is particularly useful in the context of IC healing approaches because it has a TRIPLE effect: Firstly, it clears the issue in question very successfully from the more resourceful, older position that you are now; Secondly, it creates a sense of *connection* and of *responsibility* for the past self - it is a form of *re-parenting* yourself. Thirdly, proxy tapping the past self both heals those old wounds and at the same time, changes the entire system that is your self esteem, self concept or whatever you want to call it, NOW as the changes ripple through the whole that is you, creating new templates of behaviour, thought and possibility as this happens. HEALING THROUGH TIME I will make some suggestions now on possible areas where you might like to apply EFT, through time. CONCEPTION & PREGNANCY. Consider the baby that was conceived and that would grow up to become you. What were the circumstances of this? Is there anything that comes to mind for this time period, any sense, any emotions, any words or statements you were told about that have stayed with you and still cause discomfort? Example Opening Statements (please note the slight modifications in the statements): Even though this baby should never have been born, I now deeply and profoundly love and welcome this baby. Even though this baby was unwanted, I now deeply and profoundly love, accept and welcome this baby. Even though this baby's mother drank all through pregnancy, I now deeply and profoundly love and welcome this baby. Even though it was said that this baby was born under an unlucky star, I now deeply and profoundly love and welcome this baby. You might like to do another round, after such statements have been completed, but use the generic set up statement of: "I now deeply and completely HEAL this baby." *Comment - If these Opening Statements cause you much distress, it might be best to do this process with another to help guide and support you. BIRTH. Birth is always a very dramatic experience. You might remember something, you might have a feeling or sense of something that happened then, and many of us have been told many horrific things about this time, all of which is stored on some level in our multiordinate energy matrices. Here are some example opening statements: Even though this baby caused his/her mother so much pain and suffering, I now deeply and profoundly forgive and love this baby. Even though this baby was born too early, I now deeply and profoundly love and accept this baby. Even though this baby nearly died, I now deeply and profoundly love and accept this baby. Following the birth statements, I would advise to always append each round with a round of: "I now deeply and profoundly heal this baby from all wounds he/she might have sustained at the time of birth." 0-6 MONTHS. This is a critical stage in the life of a child, as it makes its first experiences with The Hard. Constant caretaking, attention, love, warmth, feeding is of the essence for this child to grow up strong and confident. There are those who say that the very most basic ideas and concepts, way below the threshold of conscious awareness or of words and pictures, are formed in that time. Example Opening Statements: Even though this baby never received enough love, I now deeply and profoundly love this baby. Even though this baby was left alone in the dark, I now deeply and profoundly love and embrace this baby. Even though this baby was so helpless, I now deeply and profoundly love and accept responsibility for this baby. Even though this baby was always screaming, I now deeply and profoundly love and nourish this baby. I would advise to append each round with the following: I now deeply and profoundly heal this baby from the wounds he/she has sustained at that fragile time. 6 MONTHS - 2 YEARS. Entirely reliant on the caretakers, the child now begins their own explorations of the World. Their experiences during this time - and this includes toilet training - are said to set their energy exchanges with the All There Is on a most profound level. This includes basic beliefs of what can and cannot be had, what can and cannot be done, what can and cannot be learned, as well as how, what and why relationships are constructed, mostly based on the primary caretakers of that time. Example opening statements might include: Even though this child was not allowed to explore, I now deeply and profoundly love and encourage this child. Even though this child was ignored, I now deeply and profoundly acknowledge and love this child. Even though this child was totally overwhelmed by the world, I now deeply and profoundly love and take responsibility for this child. Even though this child was pushed on way too fast, I now deeply and profoundly love and accept this child. Append as usual, any one given round with a round of: I now heal this child, deeply and profoundly, from all the injuries it sustained during this time of life. 2 YEARS - 6 YEARS. This is the time of development of the basic sense of self - who we are, what our place is in the world. Many very unhelpful self concepts are formed during this time, which may include first contacts with organised learning which are of the essence for undertaking a great many tasks that rely on learning and change in the future. Example opening statements might include: Even though this child was a girl, I now deeply and profoundly love and accept this child. Even though this child was slow to learn, I now deeply and profoundly love and accept this child. Even though this child was said to have been "a little monster", I now deeply and profoundly love and accept this child. Even though this child was abused, I now deeply and profoundly love and treasure this child. Even though this child was different, I now deeply and profoundly love and treasure this child. As always, append each round with the global: I now heal all the injuries this child sustained during this time, deeply and profoundly, with my love. AND ONWARD TO MATURITY Of course, change and learning do not stop when we are 6 years old. It would be most valuable indeed to continue on and create your own custom made line of growth beyond age 6 and into pre-teen, then teenager stage and until you have reached a point of conclusion where you felt maturity and adult hood had been obtained. Now the truth is that many of us, age 40, 50, 60 and beyond have never really felt as though they did attain adulthood; many of us have a horror of such a state and actively fight it for many reasons, the main one being that those who were presented to us as models of adulthood were not what we would ever want to become. However, it is my supposition that IC explorations, and more specifically, IC Healing can help accomplish this. By taking responsibility in a true adult fashion - note, a true adult fashion not as was modelled by the so called "Grown Ups" around us - for our own selves, we are both healing past wounds as well as *recreating a whole new model* of adulthood for our own past selves. This is a most profoundly healing and ecological set of energy exchanges *within our own self* that I absolutely believe needs to be accomplished FIRST and as the FIRST PRIORITY to any other endeavour. For how can you heal others if you cannot heal yourself, how can you forgive others if you cannot forgive yourself, how can you serve others if you cannot serve yourself? It is often said that "loving the self" precedes all endeavours to love others. Loving the child you once were is an essential, if not *the only essential* component to understanding the nature of love, forgiveness and healing. I offer you these protocols for use with your self and your clients with my sincere wishes to you for deep healing and re-alignment. Silvia Hartmann Reminder : For upgraded methods, please see our free and near-free TRAINING options. Also, if you have not already done so, be sure to sign up for our FREE SUPPORT (This is the Heartbeat of the Palace of Possibilities and provides live Webinars, Q&A, ideas, creativity and more). Use the icons below to share this article on Social Media. Cheers, Gary

Alert : This is one of 3,000 EFT Tapping articles that were written by users like you but before 2010. As such they are outdated and some of the links don't work. Nonetheless, they provide an excellent Peek at the Possibilities and show you the wide reach of even our older methods. See TRAINING for our free and near-free advanced methods. This detailed article by Jayne Morgan-Kidd illustrates the skillful use of EFT in an all-too-common case of domestic violence. Please note how Jayne approaches the issue globally to "take the edge off" and then gets down to an important SPECIFIC EVENT. She also displays creative ways to test her work. This is an important article for serious students who want the skills necessary to deal with intense cases. By Jayne Morgan Kidd Background: I met 'Berica' (not her real name) this year as a result of a Child Protective Service intervention. CPS took her 6 month old daughter from the home because of discovered drug use by both Berica and her husband. During the course of the investigation, CPS found that Berica was a victim of domestic violence by her husband and so ordered her into counseling as part of a prescribed program to follow in hopes of regaining custody of her daughter. Berica's husband was arrested and jailed on drug charges during this time and Berica began divorce proceedings. Berica is a woman in her 30's who grew up with an extremely controlling and violent father. Her mother, sister and brother also fell victim to this man's rage and violent behavior. Berica was exposed regularly to this brutalization of her entire family throughout her childhood and teenage years. As an adult, she married twice to violent and dangerous men whom she ultimately left. She has been stalked by both and she continues to fear retaliation from them for leaving. During these marriages in which violence was a recurring feature, her major coping mechanism was drugs. At present, she no longer uses drugs to numb her feelings. Berica suffers from chronic PTSD symptoms including recurring nightmares, sleep problems, hypervigilance and an exaggerated startle response. Her main symptom: One of her most pronounced and visible symptoms is her inability to tolerate another person coming into her personal space without physically shaking and becoming tearful. (The only exceptions are her children and her brother.) This response is easily measured as I, myself could not come close to her without provoking the shaking and tears. Rather than using the 0-10 intensity rating, we used her physical response to my entering her personal space. In my office, I sit about five feet from my clients. I had her permission to come closer to her. I took one step and waited for her to tell me if I could come closer. We continued this way until I was standing directly in front of her. At that point, she asked me to stop. Her hands and knees were shaking and tears were streaming down her cheeks. I sat back in my chair and we began: Even though I feel scared when people get close to me.... At the points, I used phrases like: People scare me. I've been hurt before. Don't know who to trust. People are scary. Don't get too close to me. GC COMMENT: Please note how Jayne starts with more generalized, or global, approaches. This often helps to "take the edge off" of intense issues. Later, you will see that Jayne zeroes in on a SPECIFIC EVENT. This is often a very useful approach. JAYNE CONTINUES: After that round, we tried our experiment again. This time, I got as far as sitting on the arm of the chair she was in. There wasn't any crying at this point but the shaking in her knees and hands continued, although both had diminished considerably. I sat back in my chair and asked about other symptoms. She said she had trouble sleeping because of recurring nightmares. I decided to try some EFT with one of the nightmares, using the Movie Technique. We did one round on the first emotional peak at the beginning of the nightmare when she shifted into a vivid real-life memory related to the nightmare. She had 'buried' this memory for years, she said. We then did several EFT rounds on the fear provoked by the memory, stopping and assessing our progress after each round by my moving closer to her. GC COMMENT: This memory became a very important SPECIFIC EVENT that Jayne skillfully approaches from several different angles. Note how the memory showed up during the EFT process. This happens frequently. JAYNE CONTINUES: Even though it scares me when I think about dad chasing me with that stick... (After this round, less tears but still lots of shaking, especially in the hands) Even though I still feel scared when I remember my brother saving me from dad and then dad started beating my brother... (no tears, continued shaking) Even though I still feel scared as I remember running through the field and getting stickers in my feet...going as fast as I could to get to a phone to call the cops so I could save my brother... (no tears, visibly less shaking) Even though the police didn't take dad away, they just told dad to leave the house and we were still so scared... (no tears, continued milder shaking) On the last round, I used more self empowering phrases: Even though I still feel scared, I accept myself for my feelings about that memory and I know it was a long time ago, and dad can't hurt me anymore...And I won't ever let my children be around dad... and I will warn my children about dad in case they ever want to meet him when they get older... At the end of the last round, we again tested her ability to allow me into her personal space. I moved toward her slowly as she directed and eventually sat on the arm of her chair without bringing about any tears or any visible shaking. She said she could still feel herself 'shaking a tiny bit on the inside'. I also tested for the feelings of fear provoked by this memory, which had subsided as well. GC COMMENT: Testing one's work like this is very important. It lets us know where we are in the process and gives us clues as to what is left to address. At the end of the session, I asked her to be aware and make note of how she was feeling in any situation that would normally provoke tears and shaking to see if this effect will generalize to other people. Next session about 3 weeks later: When Berica came in, I asked if we could check to see how she felt about having me in her personal space. I moved toward her as before, and sat on the arm of the chair. She had no problem with this at all and as an added improvement, there was no internal shaking. This time I asked if I could touch her hand. She agreed and as I did so, her hands began to shake. I sat back down and asked about how it had been for her to be around others these past 3 weeks. She described a situation where someone (known to her) had startled her and although her initial reaction was to run, she was able to stop herself and respond more normally . She talked about being around her co-workers and feeling more at ease. She also said she had visited her father for the first time in many years and no longer felt any fear of him. She was able to hug him and tell him she hopes he is doing better. A forward step indeed. We did some other less intense work (and tapping) on some communication problems she has with her mother, saving the more difficult topic for last. After making good headway on the mom issue, we began talking about her fears of having to come face to face with her present husband in court next week. He has been extremely physically abusive toward her and has threatened her and, although she has a protective order against him for herself, none exists for the baby and this causes her a lot of worry. She is very afraid of him and her experience with him has given her reason to be fearful. But her fear is so extreme that it rules her life. She decided that reducing her fear to a 3 or 4 would be okay, but no lower. Her 0-10 intensity level on the fear of seeing him in court was a 8. We started tapping on: Even though he terrifies me, I accept myself and I am open to the possibility that I could release some of this fear. Even though I need to keep some of my fear of him, I choose to release the excess fear that I have. After these rounds, she said her fear was at a '4' and she was satisfied with that. I asked if I could test again for her ability to have me in her space and touch her. This time as I sat on the arm of her chair, I touched her hands, then her shoulders, her back, and her head. All this occurred without shaking (inside or out) and without tears. To me, this is an example of how connected we are in every way, emotionally, physically and through time. We did not do any more tapping specifically for the shaking upon being touched, but after working on other things, this problem subsided as well. Jayne Morgan-Kidd Reminder : For upgraded methods, please see our free and near-free TRAINING options. Also, if you have not already done so, be sure to sign up for our FREE SUPPORT (This is the Heartbeat of the Palace of Possibilities and provides live Webinars, Q&A, ideas, creativity and more). Use the icons below to share this article on Social Media. Cheers, Gary

Alert : This is one of 3,000 EFT Tapping articles that were written by users like you but before 2010. As such they are outdated and some of the links don't work. Nonetheless, they provide an excellent Peek at the Possibilities and show you the wide reach of even our older methods. See TRAINING for our free and near-free advanced methods. Hi Everyone, Patricia Wynne from the UK taught her client to do surrogate tapping for her own issues while using a stuffed Teddy Bear. Notice that the client did the surrogate tapping for global issues like "everything is going to be OK" and did it with persistence for 6 months. This is a good example of how persistence pays. Getting down to specific events would likely have brought more efficiency to the process. Hugs, Gary By Patricia Wynne Hello Gary, I'm taking the liberty of sending this experience, which is another great example of surrogate EFT. I've been practicing EFT for 6 years now with many grateful clients but so far have neglected to send any of my case studies for the newsletter! I bought one of Linda Wood's 'Magic Button' Bears last year at an EFT conference in Ilkley and had begun to use it with Sian when I was invited to take a trip abroad. Sian first came to see me in 2005, seeking a way to cope with her life. Over many sessions of EFT we addressed her insecurities and fear that; 'The world is a dangerous place'. Even though EFT has helped her to face her many fears and let them go, she's still had to cope with the physical effects of many years of diabetes. Last year, as I was planning to go away for six months, she had a particularly bad time and was hospitalised for several weeks. I used the 'Magic Buttons' Bear that we'd been using to send her daily surrogate healing. I felt bad about leaving her at such a vulnerable time so to help compensate for my absence, I left the Bear in her care. While I was away she made good use of her "Surrogate Therapist!" On my return I was amazed at her progress. This is her experience in her own words... My Special Friend... I have been housebound for many years due to my physical and emotional illnesses and have been having EFT for some time. Before Pat went on her travels, she gave me a special Teddy Bear, which has EFT tapping points on its face and body in the form of buttons. I was panicking on how I was going to cope without Pat, so I focused my energy and thoughts onto my EFT Teddy. Each time I had a stressful time or panic attack I just focused on my Teddy by tapping and saying to myself that everything was going to be OK. I did this for the 6 months Pat was away and slowly started to feel better as I took control of my issues. I became more focused and bit by bit my confidence started to grow. I now go out every day and have started a hobby that I never dreamed would happen. I feel and believe that my special Teddy helped me through the bad times and focused myself outside the four walls I had been living in for 8 years. I hope my story will inspire and give hope to someone who's struggling with everyday life or problems they may have. I'd just like to say that there is light at the end of the tunnel as I found mine in my EFT Teddy, my special friend. Naturally, she now has her special bear friend for keeps. Patricia Wynne Reminder : For upgraded methods, please see our free and near-free TRAINING options. Also, if you have not already done so, be sure to sign up for our FREE SUPPORT (This is the Heartbeat of the Palace of Possibilities and provides live Webinars, Q&A, ideas, creativity and more). Use the icons below to share this article on Social Media. Cheers, Gary

Alert : This is one of 3,000 EFT Tapping articles that were written by users like you but before 2010. As such they are outdated and some of the links don't work. Nonetheless, they provide an excellent Peek at the Possibilities and show you the wide reach of even our older methods. See TRAINING for our free and near-free advanced methods. by Dawson Church Hi Everyone, Dawson Church gives many EFT lectures and demonstrations. He describes this impressive on-stage result and says, "Half a century of muscle memory had been released by two minutes of EFT!" Hugs, Gary I was giving the keynote speech at a conference recently in front of about 200 people, and we had some time afterwards to do demonstrations. Several of the participants raised their hands as having musculoskeletal problems, so I worked with five of them on stage as a group. One of them was a 67 year old nurse, and her problem was a limited range of motion problem (ROM) in one arm. She could place her left arm behind her back without any problem at all, but did not have the same ROM in her right arm. I used an instrument called a goniometer to measure the exact ROM in both arms. The two segments of her unrestricted left arm could pivot to an angle of 66 degrees, while the best she could do with her impaired right arm was 80 degrees. She expressed great frustration at this limitation, which she's had since early adulthood. I was taken aback by how vehemently she expressed her frustration. My mind, always skeptical, asked how EFT could possibly reverse a half century of a mechanical limitation between her humerus, and radius and ulna bones. My right brain is always happy to tell me how impossible rapid healing is. I asked where in her body she felt the emotional charge, and she said that it was located in her solar plexus. I asked her a question I find very useful in EFT, "What's the earliest memory you have of feeling that exact sensation in that exact location in your body?" She unhesitatingly said that it was when she'd been given detention in elementary school, despite the fact that she had done nothing wrong. She had been very angry. She said her SUD intensity in her solar plexus was 8 out of 10 in intensity. We tapped on phrases like, "Even though my teacher unfairly gave me that detention..." I also asked her what her teacher's name was, since the more specific aspects of the experience you can tap on, the better, "Even though Miss Smith gave me the detention...." I asked her about other memories, like the faces of the children in her classroom, till her intensity level went down to zero on every aspect of the memory, and the feeling in her solar plexus. I then had her turn her back toward the audience and we measured her ROM again. It was now 68 degrees, and the difference in mobility between her two arms was indistinguishable. Half a century of muscle memory had been released by two minutes of EFT! When you learn EFT, Gary will tell you to tap on the physical item as well as on the emotional aspects, and in private I will do both. However, when I demonstrate EFT to medical professionals, I usually ONLY work on the emotional issues, just to make the point that emotional distress contributes to virtually every physical ailment. Dawson Church Reminder : For upgraded methods, please see our free and near-free TRAINING options. Also, if you have not already done so, be sure to sign up for our FREE SUPPORT (This is the Heartbeat of the Palace of Possibilities and provides live Webinars, Q&A, ideas, creativity and more). Use the icons below to share this article on Social Media. Cheers, Gary

Alert : This is one of 3,000 EFT Tapping articles that were written by users like you but before 2010. As such they are outdated and some of the links don't work. Nonetheless, they provide an excellent Peek at the Possibilities and show you the wide reach of even our older methods. See TRAINING for our free and near-free advanced methods. Hi Everyone, Here's a creative article by Angie Muccillo from Australia that touches on an issue that everyone has sooner or later. Very useful. Hugs, Gary By Angie Muccillo Is there a person, place, or situation in your life you have to say goodbye to?  Is someone you love moving away, or dying, or are you the one moving away and leaving the place and the people you love behind?  Does the thought of saying goodbye in this case cause sadness or pain, regret, abandonment, grief, bitterness or fear?  Alternatively is there someone or something in the past that you had to say goodbye to and the thought of it still creates pain? As life is never stagnant, the people and places in our lives will always come and go and so we are all at some stage faced with the prospect of saying goodbye.  This is a time which can be filled with an array of positive and negative emotions.  Many a song lyric, movie, poem and novel has been written around the theme of painful goodbyes. Tap On Your Goodbyes Using EFT to release the pain of saying goodbye can make it easier to accept the situation or to let go and move on from whatever person or circumstance is leaving or has left your life.  Saying goodbye is not always painful, but when it is painful, taking the time to focus on it and tap can be very healing and emotionally liberating.  It is also useful as a personal peace exercise. How to tap on your goodbyes Past Goodbyes Make a list of all the painful goodbyes you can think of from when you were a child until now.  Give each painful goodbye a name or label (the time I had to say goodbye to…) and apply the EFT Movie Technique to each one of these movies until you release all the negative emotions around these specific events. Future Goodbyes Think of a person, place or thing that you will be saying goodbye to in the near future and on a scale of 0-10 rate how upset you are at the thought of this.  For example, it may be a friend who’s moving away or a close colleague who is leaving work or a child that is moving out of home or a parent who is returning to their home country or a partner who is leaving for war duty.  Use the setups below or create your own. Even though it’s hard to say goodbye to ___ … Even though saying goodbye to ___ is painful and fills me with sorrow, pain, fear, regret, anger… Even though I don’t want to say goodbye to___ … Even though saying goodbye hurts… Even though I don’t want to move on in my life without ___ … Even though I hate goodbyes… Even though I’m afraid of letting go and moving on… Energetic Goodbyes Perhaps there is someone you still haven’t said goodbye to properly in your heart or you didn’t have a chance to say goodbye to before they died.  If there is someone you feel ready to say goodbye to, you can either think about or look at a picture of them and tap continuously as you repeat the word goodbye at each point. Say Goodbye to the Pain of Saying Goodbye Someone very important to me is about to leave my life by moving away, so now more than ever I am very grateful for the use of EFT in helping me to release the yucky stuff so I can embrace the experience with joy and gratitude. For me this current goodbye has triggered deep sadness reminding me of the pain associated with past goodbyes all of which I can neutralize with EFT. Angie Muccillo Reminder : For upgraded methods, please see our free and near-free TRAINING options. Also, if you have not already done so, be sure to sign up for our FREE SUPPORT (This is the Heartbeat of the Palace of Possibilities and provides live Webinars, Q&A, ideas, creativity and more). Use the icons below to share this article on Social Media. Cheers, Gary

Alert : This is one of 3,000 EFT Tapping articles that were written by users like you but before 2010. As such they are outdated and some of the links don't work. Nonetheless, they provide an excellent Peek at the Possibilities and show you the wide reach of even our older methods. See TRAINING for our free and near-free advanced methods. Hi Everyone, Sam Smith from Australia takes us down a detailed path leading to the successful resolution of a difficult problem. Hugs, Gary By Sam Smith Hi Gary, This case surrounds a woman, 'Georgie' who sought an appointment regarding her particular predicament. Georgie is 38 years old. She is an attractive, successful professional woman - a lawyer - who is on her second marriage. She has two children from her first marriage. She was open, seemingly honest and forthright. And in her words she 'has the morals of an alley cat.' It transpires that Georgie has had a series of sexual liaisons, one-night stands and affairs throughout the course of both marriages, which she had apparently successfully hidden from her partners, her family and her colleagues. She didn't know why it started but that it did start about a year into her first marriage. She said that her marriages had been happy in all respects. Her first husband had died prematurely from cancer. Both marriages had a pleasing and successful sex life. She had a normal healthy balanced childhood, raised by a loving mother and father in an affluent suburb. Her mother had died when she was twelve but her father was still alive. I talked to her about these affairs to see if there were any obvious patterns. Here is the information in a nutshell. Some of these men had been younger than Georgie, some older. They were from different professions and different backgrounds and localities. Some were one-night stands and others took on a longer two to three week affair. She had even had sexual relations with some of her clients. With some there would be full sex, with others just oral sex only. She met them in all sorts of places and couldn't discern what attracted her to them. She professed that there was no yearning, longing or urge for the sexual act. She could take it or leave it in relation to achieving an orgasm with them. She stated she was not turned on by any excitement in conducting the affairs. And any intimacy she achieved was not important either. Sometimes alcohol was involved, sometimes not. After each affair ended she would promise herself that would be the last time. There was no time pattern either in between any of the affairs. Sometimes a few days, sometimes weeks had passed between them. Being a busy lawyer she could successfully cover her tracks and hide these matters from her family, friends and colleagues. She was distraught at her behaviour having 'come to the end of her tether.' She didn't feel good about herself. She had sought a remedy. She had attended doctors, psychologists, hypnotists and NLP practitioners to try to change her behaviour. She had also visited with an 'energy therapist' (Not an EFT practitioner) who informed her that she had something called 'massive reversal' which would take 6 months to a year to correct if she was willing! She was terrified at this lengthy prospect and of being discovered and what that would do to her and her family and her professional reputation. Right from the start it was evident that there were going to be challenges in having Georgie tune into her problems. Her mind was racing whenever she discussed or tried to focus on a specific situation. It would jump all over the place and all that was coming out was a jumbled confusion that was making it very difficult for her to identify and remain on a specific situation or issue that she wanted to work on. But this is why I love the gift of EFT. You can adapt it to anything. It was obvious that Georgie had to be calmer before we went anywhere so I had her start with this statement. 'Even though I have trouble focusing on a specific situation I deeply, completely, accept love and forgive myself.' She rated her trouble in focusing on a specific situation on a 0-10 scale at a 10 out of 10 (10/10). After the setup we took four rounds of tapping to push it down to a five and you could see her changing physical appearance. She was a lot calmer. I asked if there were any physical or emotional symptoms that accompanied her thoughts as we worked on the above statement. She stated that it was not physical as such but that she had a 'whirlwind' in her mind as she began to talk about her issues. She described it as a cloudy, tall; whirlwind that was turning very fast in her mind. Now that she had 'settled down' it seemed to her that this whirlwind was present a lot. So we worked on 'Even though I have this very fast cloudy whirlwind turning in my mind, I deeply and completely love accept myself." She rated it a 9/10. It was wonderful to see that after 11 rounds working on this statement and slight variations of it, the whirlwind effect was gone. For the first time she said that her mind had stopped racing and she was really calm when we talked about her situation. Persistent tapping really does work. We then worked on the following statements that came up during discussion: Even though I am a slut I deeply and completely love, forgive and accept myself Even though I have the morals of an alley cat I deeply and completely love, forgive and accept myself Even though I've always been like this I deeply and completely love, forgive and accept myself Even though I am ashamed at my behaviour I deeply and completely love, forgive and accept myself Even though I'm embarrassed by my behaviour I deeply and completely love, forgive and accept myself Even though if my children found out I'd die I deeply and completely love, forgive and accept myself Even though I can't stop I deeply and completely love, forgive and accept myself Even though I love my husband I deeply and completely love, forgive and accept myself Even though I don't know why I do this I deeply and completely love, forgive and accept myself Even though it isn't necessary for me to do this I deeply and completely love, forgive and accept myself We were progressing well. Most of the above issues rated at 8/9 or 10 and we were getting them down to 3's and 4's after an average of six rounds of tapping. But where was the core issue? Our session was about to end and I had telephone clients covering my next sessions. I wanted to keep the momentum moving - Georgie was enthralled by EFT's affect on her and of the benefits she had already gained. As I was free later that afternoon I asked Georgie if she would return. She agreed. Before she left I pulled out a workbook. This workbook is based on your Personal Peace Procedure. This is where I love EFT and the techniques you share with us Gary. They can be adapted so easily and so readily to any situation. I gave Georgie these instructions. She was to sit down and fill the workbook with as many specific incidents regarding her sexual promiscuity as she could remember. She was then to title incidents as movies and we would examine them on her return. She also had been given a 'protective' set-up statement to use whilst writing these on these matters. I had written it within the workbook for her to use should she feel any negative physical or emotional discomfort arising as she was carrying out the exercise. It was."Even though I'm writing down these specific incidents from my life and I am feeling ashamed; guilty; sad; angry or some other emotion or feeling with myself or others, I deeply and completely love, accept and forgive myself." When Georgie returned later that afternoon she had completed 51 specific incidents in the workbook and given each a title. She said that there were more but that she had run out of time. Her physical appearance was still calm. There had been no more whirlwinds or confusion in her mind as she completed the exercise. Georgie did say that she used the protective setup statement and tapped for the first several incidents that she had listed because she had felt tearful, afraid and ashamed. The tapping had calmed her down and in her words 'funnily enough I didn't need it anymore. After a little while all those feelings had gone.' I read the specific events and titles. I ignored the most recent and concentrated on the older more historic ones where I felt there may be a clue to her behaviour. Number 16 was significant. It described Georgie losing her virginity at age 15 to an older boyfriend of that time. The title was most intriguing - "Mothers Revenge" I asked her about this but she said that she didn't know why she had used that title. She had just been following the instructions to write and title as quickly as possible and not to analyze. Her mother had always been very caring and supportive and she had a hard time when she died. She also said that there was no real negative emotional tug surrounding the incident. It was a fact of life. She wanted to do it and had done it. Well now I asked her to analyze. I used the questions... What does that situation remind you of? G. Losing my virginity. What else could it remind you of (What else is a wonderful lead in a question) She thought for a moment before answering. G. Being a rebel Why would it remind you of being a rebel? I don't really know What does the title you gave it remind you of? G. I'm confused by it. But I guess it's about having a go at my mother Why would you be 'having a go at your mother?' G I don't know. I'm really confused. And the whirlwind is back. It's got my mothers face in it. We tapped on this 'whirlwind with my mothers face in it' for several rounds. It went from 10 to 8, 5,4,2,0 and was gone This was intriguing so I formulated a set-up statement. I had a hunch that a large part of the issue could be resolved here. The statement was .'Even though I don't know why I was having a go at my mother I deeply and completely accept myself!' We did five rounds of tapping on this second statement then I had Georgie add the words 'and my mother.' to the end of the setup. Two more rounds of tapping with the new addition and Georgie burst into tears. It appears that there was another whirlwind in her mind that had her mum's face within it. We tapped on this 'whirlwind with my mothers face in it' for three rounds. It went from 10 to 6, 2, and was gone. Georgie then recalled an incident she had forgotten all about. She remembered her mother had caught her in the garden when she was eleven with a boyfriend she really liked. Her first 'true' boyfriend. They had been holding each other and kissing and her mother had discovered them and had become furious. Her mother had gone into a tirade and dismissed the boy. Georgie was banished to her bedroom with no dinner and she remembered hearing her mother and father talking that evening as she sneaked downstairs to get something to eat. Her mother was calling her a tramp, her behaviour sluttish, and that once she was like that she could never change. Her mother would not let her out on her own without supervision. Then Georgie had to deal with the grief of her mother's death a few weeks after that. The trauma of dealing with her mother's death had apparently erased the incident from her memory. So we tapped on the following real emotional content for Georgie. Even though my mum thought I was a tramp I deeply and completely accept myself Even though my mum though I was a slut I deeply and completely accept myself Even though my mum told my dad I deeply and completely accept myself Even though my mum got it all wrong I deeply and completely accept myself Even though my mum thought I couldn't change I deeply and completely accept myself Even though she was wrong I deeply and completely accept myself and her Even though I had forgotten all about it I deeply and completely love and accept myself Georgie's demeanor became so relaxed after this. She said she never felt so calm in a long time. It also 'released her memory.' But there was a burning question left. Why had she started the liaisons in the first place? What had triggered this behaviour? Georgie thought she knew. Her mother, as part of her will had left Georgie an inheritance in the form of a trust fund which was to be accessed at a certain age. She recalled that her first liaison was two days after the date of the issue of this trust fund. She remembered feelings of guilt and anger being associated with the receipt of the trust fund too. Could there be a connection? You can guess the answer! All in all I had four sessions with Georgie. They were full sessions too. We worked on blocks she uncovered as she worked through her list as homework as you suggest. What a wonderful idea that is because we all can all become our own change guru's. The effect that EFT has had on her life has been incredible. She has erased all the negative emotions surrounding her past promiscuity. She uses it constantly now, in her own words, 'to balance herself and get a sense of perspective' in her busy life. It has an added benefit also. She has become 'more clear in my thinking and analysis of what I'm working on at any given time.' Georgie is happy. There have been no more affairs or liaisons. She is moving interstate to join a new practice and be nearer her family. Today we had a symbolic ceremony where we ritually burned her workbook overlooking the ocean in an atmosphere of warmth, laughter, understanding and peace and her realization that EFT has given her back control of her life! Now why would anyone want to work in any other field? Many blessings, Sam Reminder : For upgraded methods, please see our free and near-free TRAINING options. Also, if you have not already done so, be sure to sign up for our FREE SUPPORT (This is the Heartbeat of the Palace of Possibilities and provides live Webinars, Q&A, ideas, creativity and more). Use the icons below to share this article on Social Media. Cheers, Gary

Alert : This is one of 3,000 EFT Tapping articles that were written by users like you but before 2010. As such they are outdated and some of the links don't work. Nonetheless, they provide an excellent Peek at the Possibilities and show you the wide reach of even our older methods. See TRAINING for our free and near-free advanced methods. Hi Everyone, Karen Kolberg had a severe seizure episode at work but calmed down quickly with EFT. She tells the story in this article. Hugs, Gary By Karen Kolberg Greetings Gary, A year ago I had a seizure and was taken to the hospital. After an emergency CT scan and MRI, I had brain surgery where the surgeon discovered, and operated on, an AVM (arteriovenus malformation) or bleed in the brain. When I woke up from the surgery, I was paralyzed on my right side. I was in the hospital for 6 grueling weeks and in physical therapy for 6 months. I finally went back to work 8 months later, but still had weakness and pain on my right side, in my shoulder and arm, plus continual dizziness. Despite all this, I re-learned how to drive and was functioning as best as I could. I was doing as much healing work on my own while investigating new avenues for healing when I discovered the EFT website. I ordered all the DVD's and have been studying them and helping my friends with their issues and pain, with much success. I taught the basic recipe to some of my co-workers, and even my boss. All of them found it interesting, but no one had really seen it in action because I told them about it without doing sessions with them. This last week, I had a seizure episode at work. It was very intense, with lots of pain and quite frightening for all concerned. I felt like I was being electrocuted from the inside, out. My boss and I were in the hallway, when I suddenly couldn't move my right leg. She helped me to sit down and ran to call 911, because I was starting to seize up. When she came back, I asked her to please tap. I asked her several times, "please tap, please tap" and I showed her, with my good hand, where to tap on my face. I also motioned for her to tap on my collarbone point. Apparently an EMT from the building arrived, and she began to tap on that point while my boss tapped on my face points. No words were necessary...I was in the thick of it...my heart was racing, I didn't know if I was dying, my breath was shallow and I was scared to death. The tapping calmed me down very quickly. My heart stopped racing, and I was able to stay conscious, not lose any bodily function, and was able to answer all of the questions that the EMT's asked. I went to the hospital and had a CT scan, which showed that I didn't have a stroke or TIA. I went home that evening and went back to work the next day. I am positive that without the EFT, the event would have been even more frightening. I am so glad I learned how to do the tapping routine, and also instructed others who are with me on a daily basis. You never know when it can help you with your own traumatic event. Thanks Gary. I look forward to more and more tapping. Karen Kolberg Reminder : For upgraded methods, please see our free and near-free TRAINING options. Also, if you have not already done so, be sure to sign up for our FREE SUPPORT (This is the Heartbeat of the Palace of Possibilities and provides live Webinars, Q&A, ideas, creativity and more). Use the icons below to share this article on Social Media. Cheers, Gary

Alert : This is one of 3,000 EFT Tapping articles that were written by users like you but before 2010. As such they are outdated and some of the links don't work. Nonetheless, they provide an excellent Peek at the Possibilities and show you the wide reach of even our older methods. See TRAINING for our free and near-free advanced methods. Hi Everyone, Do you have a friend or relative that is skeptical about EFT? Read this article by Louise Woods from the UK and discover how she handled the problem. Please consult physicians on all medical issues. Hugs, Gary By Louise Woods I have been an EFT practitioner for about 3 years now. Previously I was a software engineer and had a successful career. After many years of stress and feeling there had to be more to life I took the plunge and started practising as a complementary therapist. I met a lot of resistance from my family when I changed careers. I think that they thought I had "lost the plot"! Over the years they have come to accept that I'm not going to go back to doing a "normal" job. My dad in particular has been quite skeptical about all that I do. In the last couple of years he has had angina and had to have an operation to fit a stent in one of his arteries. Luckily this was successful and he has been feeling much better. He is however on both cholesterol and blood pressure tablets. I really thought that EFT could benefit my Dad and knew he was very skeptical and unlikely to try it. A couple of months ago I thought I'd show my parents an EFT film and see what happened. After watching it, my Dad asked me "is there anyone in the UK who does this?". Both my Mum and I commented that I do EFT and that he has clearly not taken notice of what I do! (I've since done some EFT on myself for the issues that raised!). I then spent some time showing him how to do EFT and suggested some tapping wording to get him started. These were along the lines of: Even though I have this high blood pressure... Even though my blood pressure is too high, I choose for it to return to a normal healthy level... Even though I don't like taking these blood pressure tablets... I really didn't think he would go through with and that he was just humouring me. But I thought at least I've tried. I'm pleased to say that I was wrong. He started out tapping every day on his high blood pressure. My Mum commented that he seemed a bit less stressed. I then spoke to him a few weeks later and he reported that he was not tapping on his blood pressure anymore but that he was tapping on his temper! I was gobsmacked! He has a very quick temper and really doesn't handle stress well at all. I knew this was more like the core issue of his physical manifestations but wanted to tread carefully around his skepticism. He has been tapping regularly since. The other day my Mum asked me what have I done to my Dad! He is a now a lot calmer, his temper is much better and he even apologizes if he does lose it! If he starts losing his temper my Mum now says "tap, tap" and he does! His blood pressure has also come down. He has even started telling other people about EFT now. What a transformation! I'm going to encourage him to keep tapping on a regular basis and suggest he start looking at some childhood issues. I feel I have opened a door in my skeptical Dad. EFT is such an amazing tool, I love it. Thank you Gary for sharing it with us. In deepest gratitude, Louise Woods Reminder : For upgraded methods, please see our free and near-free TRAINING options. Also, if you have not already done so, be sure to sign up for our FREE SUPPORT (This is the Heartbeat of the Palace of Possibilities and provides live Webinars, Q&A, ideas, creativity and more). Use the icons below to share this article on Social Media. Cheers, Gary

Alert : This is one of 3,000 EFT Tapping articles that were written by users like you but before 2010. As such they are outdated and some of the links don't work. Nonetheless, they provide an excellent Peek at the Possibilities and show you the wide reach of even our older methods. See TRAINING for our free and near-free advanced methods. Hi Everyone, Affirmations are an often used means for personal change but sometimes they appear not to work. Why? Because of the "yes-buts" that can subtly follow the affirmation. We call these "tail enders" and they play an important role in how our lives unfold. EFT Master Pat Carrington brings this vital concept to our attention in this two part series. Hugs, Gary Part 1 of 2: Using EFT to deal with negative "Tail Enders" Part 2 of 2: How to Create Antidotes to Your Negative “Tail Enders” Right Within Your EFT Statement By Patricia Carrington PhD, EFT Master Part 1 of 2: Using EFT to deal with negative "Tail Enders" Unconscious sabotaging of your own conscious wishes and desires is an almost universal phenomenon that is always baffling when it occurs.  Gary Craig's concept of "Tail Enders" explains this process more clearly than almost any formulation I have come across. "Tail Enders" is a term coined by Gary to describe the hidden objections (yes-buts) that so often show up at the tail end of, and thus counteract, our best-worded positive affirmations.  Tail Enders can make our affirmations seem ineffective when in fact the affirmations may actually be doing their job by creating exactly the negative outcome which the tail ender calls for!  Gary describes this process as follows in his Palace of Possibilities "(Often) affirmations seem to be ineffective only because there is a missing piece to the affirmation process that has gone mostly unrecognized.  It has to do with what is actually affirmed.  This is often not the affirmation that is stated.  In fact, it is frequently the opposite.” “Our affirmations are impressive in their ability to shape our lives.  If we simply listen to our own self talk we will hear glowing evidence of this.  Our self talk contains constant affirmations regarding our existing beliefs and attitudes.  So does our every day conversation.  These affirmations have brought us to our current status in our lives and confined us.  To truly harness the power of affirmations, we must make sure that the actual affirmations that are taking effect are the ones we want.  Therein lies our major challenge and an indispensable use for EFT." Gary suggests that we use EFT to counteract the Tail Enders that may prevent EFT from being effective in helping us achieve our goals.  Identifying and dealing with Tail Enders when we use EFT can be crucial in helping us manifest what we desire in life. Interestingly, EFT itself can be used to deal with Tail Enders in a highly effective fashion.  Here is an example of how that works : "Brad" was a sophomore in college when he consulted me because he had a strong wish to graduate with honors but was presently getting only passing grades.  He had learned EFT from Gary's website some months before and had created for himself the following EFT statement on which he had been tapping almost daily : "Even though my grades are terrible right now and I want to graduate with honors, I deeply and completely accept myself."  He had no positive results from this statement however.  His grades remained barely good enough to pass.  When he came to see me he doubted that EFT would ever work for him. I immediately suspected that there was a tail ender concealed in his use of EFT, and asked him, “Can you think of any possible downsides to your graduating with honors?” His answers were revealing.  He told me that his older brother, “Stan”, had been his hero and role model throughout childhood. Stan hadn't done well academically however, although he had excelled in athletics.  If Brad were to graduate from college with honors he would clearly surpass Stan and in his opinion he would humiliate Stan by doing this and might lose his brother's love and friendship. We had identified an unspoken Tail Ender that had clearly been hampering Brad’s use of EFT for the issue of his grades. Tail enders usually take the form of mental "Yes but”s, and it turned out that every time Brad had tapped on his EFT statement he had been been adding another phrase at the end of it in his mind which went something like, "Yes, but if I graduate with honors, this will just ‘kill’ Stan.” This unrecognized Tail Ender had stopped him in his tracks.  As it turned out it involved many aspects of his relationship with his brother –– his need for Stan’s approval, the fact that he had been type-cast in his family as the “second-best” of the two boys (Stan was a football hero throughout high school), and other similar problems from Brad’s past. We then used EFT to systematically deal with all these Tail Enders, the "Yes but”s that had been negating his openly expressed positive intentions.  By doing this, Brad finally reached a point where tapping on the issue of his wish to excel academically felt “congruent” to him -- it was now free of inner contradictions and “Yes, but”s.  Brad now wholeheartedly wanted to graduate with honors, and because of this his tapping on this issue was now productive.  He was able to use his original EFT statement effectively for the first time. And his grades began to improve steadily.  By the end of the next semester he was on the honor role, a dramatic change that could only have been possible after he had overcome the Tail Enders. There is also another way in which EFT can be used very effectively to handle tail enders.  This involves a special use of the EFT Choices Method which I will talk about in part two of this series. Pat Carrington PhD, EFT Master Part 2 of 2: How to Create Antidotes to Your Negative “Tail Enders” Right Within Your EFT Statement In my first article in this series I talked about using Gary Craig’s concept of "tail enders", in my opinion one of the most important ideas Gary ever presented to us. In case you don't remember what a "tail ender" is, it is a term coined by Gary to describe the hidden objections (yes-buts) that so often show up at the tail end of, and thus counteract, our best-worded positive affirmations.  Tail Enders can make our affirmations seem ineffective when in fact the affirmations may actually be doing their job by creating exactly the negative outcome which the tail ender calls for! Gary suggests handling tail enders by tapping on the issues they raise until these issues are neutralized by EFT.  This is an excellent way to proceed which I describe in Part 1 of this series.  However, with the advent of the EFT Choices Method, we have an additional option.  This is to build the antidote to the tail ender right into the Choices phrase we use.  Here’s an Here’s an example of how that works. My client "Kaye" wanted to move into a "beautiful home in the country".  However she had not been able to get herself to do the things required to bring about such a change in her life.  Clearly some hidden issues were stopping her from doing this. When Kaye thought about the phrase, "Even though I'm afraid I'll never find a beautiful home in the country", her thoughts turned to her older sister.  She told me that her sister was already unhappy because she (the sister) lived in an inadequate and dreary apartment and that she felt her sister would be both hurt and jealous if Kaye moved into her own dream home.  As Kaye told me about this she revealed that her sister had been jealous of her all of her life.  Kaye had been prettier and more popular from day one, but had always tried to please this idealized older sister whom she had looked up to a greatly as a child. As she tapped on this issue, Kaye realized that her need for her sister’s love was an important factor that had been preventing her from going all out to obtain the beautiful new country home she wanted.  We now turned to working on this aspect of our problem (her tail ender) and she decided to build an antidote to her fear of losing her sister’s love into her Choices statement. To help her with this I asked her what she would, ideally, like to have happen in this situation.  She said, "I'd like to have (her sister's name) be happy for me when I move into this house.  I want her to love me just as much as she does now when I'm in my new home.” I didn't suggest to her that she say “I choose to have my sister love me …." although that might seem the obvious phase to use, because we cannot choose for another person how they should feel or act -- we can only choose this for ourselves.  I did suggest, however, that Kaye make a Choice that she would have a subjective feeling of being loved when living in her dream home.  We can choose any feeling that we want. The several Choices statements she then made simultaneously addressed her wish for a beautiful country home and her tail enders at the same time.  Some of these statements were: “Even though (her sister's name) will be jealous of me if I own a lovely country home, I choose to feel wonderfully loved in my new home." "Even though she (her sister) won't love me if I have a beautiful home, I choose to deal with that easily and comfortably." “Even though she'll be mad at me if I have a beautiful home, I choose to be okay with that and know that I'm a good sister to her.” When her EFT session came to an end, we formulated a Choice for Kaye to take home and work on on her own.  Since the need for a family member’s love is likely to have many aspects to it, some of which Kaye and I had not yet handled in her therapy sessions, I wanted to increase her ability to deal with this issue outside of therapy and suggested that she build a more general antidote to her tail enders into an EFT Choices phrase and use it at home.  The wording she settled on for this was: “I choose to feel exceptionally loved while living in a beautiful spacious country home.” This choice simultaneously addressed her wish for a lovely home and her tail ender at the same time.  While we had to do further tapping on other aspects of this issue in her next therapy session, by then Kaye had already begun to actively look for houses that would fit her ideal one by that time and was getting the word out among friends about this.  Within two months of starting work on her tail enders she had found a "beautiful country home –– my ideal" and she and her family were soon able to move into it with great excitement. Of course, some people find a choice such as "feeling loved" very difficult.  If so, then we can use EFT directly to deal with that problem by addressing its historical origins in the person’s life.  After removing some of the blocks to feeling loved, we can then help the person (or ourselves) formulate all-encompassing Choices such as: "I choose to feel lovable," or "I choose to feel loved," or address these issues through a more Choice. If you’d like to try out this method, antidotes to tail enders can be derived by first uncovering the hidden objections (contradictions) within yourself to the Choice being created, then converting those objections (i.e. fears, doubts, etc.) into their opposite.  Here are some examples: Original Choice: "I choose to be successful in my business." Tail ender: "But if I'm successful my father/mother (others) will ridicule me the way he (she, they) always did when I succeeded at anything." Antidote to tail ender: To feel respected even when I’m successful. Amended Choice that incorporates antidote to the tail ender: "I choose to feel respected even if I'm successful in my business." Original Choice: "I choose to lose weight successfully." Tail ender: "But the last time I lost weight it was because I was sick, so it can be dangerous to loose weight." Antidote to tail ender: To remain healthy while losing your desired amount of weight. Amended Choice that incorporates antidote to the tail ender: "I choose to lose weight successfully and be wonderfully healthy at the same time."  Original Choice: "I choose to keep my apartment really in order." Tail ender: "But that means I will be a slave to cleaning it all the time!" Antidote to tail ender: To freely enjoy keeping your apartment (house etc.) in order. Amended Choice that incorporates antidote to tail ender: "I choose to thoroughly enjoy keeping my apartment beautifully in order.” There are, of course, many different ways that the antidote to a tail ender can be incorporated within a Choice, and seeking to identify the right one for a specific problem is a skill in itself.  However, it’s a habit well worth cultivating because of it saves much time and effort. The answer to tail enders can therefore be (1) to handle them directly by using EFT to eliminate the problem involved (see Part 1 of this series), or (2) by inserting an antidote to the tail ender into an EFT Choices statement.  Both of these approaches are highly effective and I often combine the two of them with impressive results.  Dealing with tail enders allows you to use EFT in an extremely effective fashion.  Regards, Pat Carrington Reminder : For upgraded methods, please see our free and near-free TRAINING options. Also, if you have not already done so, be sure to sign up for our FREE SUPPORT (This is the Heartbeat of the Palace of Possibilities and provides live Webinars, Q&A, ideas, creativity and more). Use the icons below to share this article on Social Media. Cheers, Gary

Alert : This is one of 3,000 EFT Tapping articles that were written by users like you but before 2010. As such they are outdated and some of the links don't work. Nonetheless, they provide an excellent Peek at the Possibilities and show you the wide reach of even our older methods. See TRAINING for our free and near-free advanced methods. Here is yet more evidence of the usefulness of doing EFT surrogately (remotely). Please note author Jo Ann Grogan's statement that, "I've learned a lot in the process and am really excited at the improvement for Grandma. The real trick to working surrogately/remotely, as you describe yourself in your DVDs, is getting out of the way yourself. I believe I've been successful because I was able to focus completely on Grandma and how she has been feeling - tuning in, and allowing my intuition to guide me as to what she needs." By Jo Ann Grogan, EFT-ADV Hello Gary, I want to share my excitement in using EFT to help my 90 year old grandmother. I am a relatively new EFT Consultant. My grandmother had been living with my mother in Florida, as her physical condition has been declining. She has Parkinson's and as a result has been quite unstable: unable to get out of bed on her own, cannot walk without assistance or get in and out of chairs, etc. and has been suffering from complete incontinence for the last several months. Her mind has some degree of dementia. She gets confused and frightened easily. Her hearing doesn't help - she has trouble with perception of words. My mother decided it was time to put her in a nursing home. Grandma was afraid of going to a home and so my mother and aunt did not tell her up front. They had her admitted to a hospital first, as this is apparently the fastest way of getting into a nursing home - she just had to have a 3-day hospital stay, then would be taken to the home from there. At the hospital, Grandma became angry and aggressive towards everyone - she tried to pull out her IV, would not cooperate in any way and was yelling at everyone. I could understand this completely - she was confused, didn't understand why she was there, and I think had a perfect right to be angry. They ended up sedating her. When I found all of this out, I was very upset. I admire and respect my grandmother as a great lady and I hated her being treated this way, and felt her frustration and powerlessness. My mother and aunt were tapping themselves, but neither would tap her when I suggested it as they didn't think she would accept it. I decided to try surrogate tapping for her, as I am about 700 miles away. I started early the next morning and first wanted to calm her. I pictured Grandma in my mind and focused on tapping myself on her behalf. ~ Even though I am angry and confused, I deeply and completely accept myself, and I choose to be calm. ~ Even though I don't know what's happening, I deeply and completely accept myself, and I choose for my mind to be sharp. ~ Even though I'm angry with my daughters, I deeply and completely accept myself and I choose to forgive them. ~ Even though I'm powerless, I deeply and completely accept myself. ~ Even though I'm frustrated with this situation, I deeply and completely accept myself. She was much improved that day when they went to visit her - the hospital staff couldn't believe the difference in her... she was calm, in control and her mind was sharp. She no longer had to be sedated and was cooperating. I continued tapping through her hospital stay to help her accept the situation. The transfer to the nursing home upset her and again she became angry and aggressive - and again she was sedated. I tapped further along the same lines of confusion, frustration, anger ... again she made a complete turn around and was fine from that point on. Once settled in the nursing home, I used my intuition to guide me in further tapping and had no real plan... ~ Even though I have no control of my bowels, I deeply and completely accept myself and I choose for my bowels to function properly. She'd been unable to make it to a bathroom for several months. That day she began and has consistently continued to use the toilet. Encouraged, I tapped for bladder control. ~ Even though I have no control of my bladder, I deeply and completely accept myself and I choose now to have control. It worked - she's been dry ever since. So, the incontinence now has been cured for over a week. This is truly amazing as she does require assistance to get to the bathroom and the lack of staff at the nursing home makes this a challenge. She often has to wait 30 - 45 minutes to get help... she's doing great! She was also having trouble with the dementia in that she could not remember that her granddaughter who was pregnant had not had her baby yet. She kept asking every day for pictures of the baby, and could not grasp that it hadn't arrived. ~ Even though I can't remember that Andrea hasn't had her baby yet, I deeply and completely accept myself and I choose to remember now. She hasn't asked for pictures again... she does ask how Andrea is doing. She has a lot of trouble perceiving words and this contributes to her confusion. ~ Even though I have trouble hearing and understanding words, I deeply and completely accept myself. Again, she's been able to hear quite well since. I'd say Grandma has responded extremely well to EFT - above is a short list of the tapping I've done for her. And, all of these things were cleared up remotely and with just one shortcut round of EFT on each. What I haven't had much success with yet is further physical problems like being able to use her hands, being steady on her feet, etc. but will keep working at those things and let you know the results. I've learned a lot in the process and am really excited at the improvement for Grandma. The real trick to working surrogately/remotely, as you describe yourself in your DVDs, is getting out of the way yourself. I believe I've been successful because I was able to focus completely on Grandma and how she has been feeling - tuning in, and allowing my intuition to guide me as to what she needs. Thanks so much for this awesome technique! I'm often still amazed at what can be accomplished - even long distance! Jo Ann Grogan, EFT-ADV Reminder : For upgraded methods, please see our free and near-free TRAINING options. Also, if you have not already done so, be sure to sign up for our FREE SUPPORT (This is the Heartbeat of the Palace of Possibilities and provides live Webinars, Q&A, ideas, creativity and more). Use the icons below to share this article on Social Media. Cheers, Gary

Alert : This is one of 3,000 EFT Tapping articles that were written by users like you but before 2010. As such they are outdated and some of the links don't work. Nonetheless, they provide an excellent Peek at the Possibilities and show you the wide reach of even our older methods. See TRAINING for our free and near-free advanced methods. Hi Everyone, This very useful article by Karen Stock shows us how the EFT tapping process can bring up core issues out of the blue. This can save a lot of detective work. She says, "Right after this tapping exercise, I came to realize that there were many more ‘outside world’ issues that I did not want to see as a kid and that need to get addressed." Hugs, Gary By Karen Stock Dear Gary, After reading the article, An optometrist points to emotional impacts on vision by Dr. Murray Rusk I tried the following: I tapped on the Karate Chop point: What is it that I do not want to see in the world? What is it that I feel threatened about from the outside world? After that I clearly heard the word ‘volcano.’  Volcano?  I was surprised because I was expecting some kind of ‘people’ issues.  Then I remembered that I find volcanoes interesting, beautiful and scary.  I tapped a little bit on the word ‘volcano’ and the following information resurfaced. When we studied Roman history in grade 5, we had to learn about the explosive eruption of Vesuvius that buried Pompeii.  After a few more rounds of tapping on the Vesuvius issue, I remembered that I was instantly scared of Vesuvius with this information.  At that time there were a lot of reports on the radio that the Vesuvius was rather active again and could erupt at anytime.  Again with some more EFT, I remembered that I did not want to look that way into the world and I vowed myself to never go and visit the Vesuvius areas.  As I did some more tapping on the Vesuvius issue, all of a sudden I remembered that we also had to write about the Vesuvius explosion as part of our homework.  I went back into the writing mode about it and to my surprise a nagging pinch in my right shoulder that I have had for many years disappeared within a second.  I have tapped so many times (over the 1 ½ years that I have been learning EFT) on this pinch without results.   I have guessed about what it might be but nothing at all would release it until this ‘vision’ issue came up with the Vesuvius.  My eye-sight has not improved but this annoying nagging and irritating pinch has not come back.  I think that it is gone for good.   Right after this tapping exercise, I came to realize that there were many more ‘outside world’ issues that I did not want to see as a kid and that need to get addressed.  I realized that this will take some time.  Some of them are: Wars with all its destructive and horrible effects on people, animals, and the earth, earthquakes and any kinds of natural disasters, atomic bomb testing explosions, Hiroshima, etc.  I will see what will happen with my eyesight once I will have tapped my way through all of this.  Sincerely, Karen Stock Reminder : For upgraded methods, please see our free and near-free TRAINING options. Also, if you have not already done so, be sure to sign up for our FREE SUPPORT (This is the Heartbeat of the Palace of Possibilities and provides live Webinars, Q&A, ideas, creativity and more). Use the icons below to share this article on Social Media. Cheers, Gary